When I first heard Lil Wayne say the following on his album I Am Not A Human Being,

“Beautiful black woman, I bet that b*@#h look better red”

I knew it was only a matter of time until he was confronted about this from a black woman. Well, apparently it happened when a woman named Destiny had a recent encounter with Lil Wayne and his Young Money crew after a concert.

Below is her account of what happened:

*Note: Lil Wayne (via Twitter) recently denied her claims*

“We met up with Mack Maine from Young Money, he then took us to a hotel a couple of other girls were there and so was Lil Wayne, Guda Guda, Lil Chuckee, and Birdman. When we entered the room Guda was like “D@#n, y’all pretty, to be dark skin.” And then Wayne quoted a verse from his song [“Right Above”]. I heard the song before and I was offended when I heard the lyrics, but I brushed my feelings off and forgot about what the gremlin said. But him saying it over again made me angry as hell. So me being the outspoken person that I am, I said, “Wayne, your daughter is dark skin so why would you say such ignorance?” He said ‘My daughter is a dark skinned millionaire, that’s the difference between her and you.”

I can tell he was very upset because i bought his daughter up but that is no excuse for what he said. Next he stated, “MY daughter is the first and last dark skin child I’m having. The rest of my baby moms [are] light skinned chicks. I even got an Asian baby moms to make sure I have a daughter with good hair. Too bad we had a son.”

Everybody started laughing and [we] stormed out of the room. Some guys followed us saying “Not everybody hate dark skinned girls. Young Money just allergic to Chocolate.”

From the looks of this encounter, it just seems like Lil Wayne was being a jerk, especially what he said about not having any more dark skinned kids. Not going to lie; I did chuckle when he told her, “My daughter is a dark skinned millionaire, that’s the difference between her and you.” But let me get to my points…

This topic (light skinned black women vs. darker skinned black women) seems to rear its’ ugly head on a daily basis. Now I don’t have a problem with any person having a specific preference on the type of women (or from a woman’s perspective, men) they are attracted to. However, it is probably wise just to keep all “negative” comments to yourself because it really doesn’t help the situation. As a darker-skinned black male I understand how it feels to be made fun of because of your skin color. I think I was hearing jokes all the way throughout middle school. Yes, it did bother me, but I think once I got older I realized that people are going to think what they are going to think. I won’t ever get a 100% approval rating when it comes to my attractiveness. 

(I know I left myself open for a series of jokes, but ahhh… oh well)

I think there are two main questions when it comes to “preference”:

First, we must ask ourselves is it really a problem being “color-struck”. Does it make Lil Wayne a bad guy that he prefers lighter skinned women? I know all of the extra comments are definitely out of line and not necessary, but I know guys who don’t take the Lil Wayne route (allegedly) and not blast Chocolate women but STILL get heat placed on them for their choice or “taste” in women. Can a brotha win?

Guess the next question is that a person thinks that a certain person who is of similar background (in this case, race) isn’t attractive, is that self-hate? I know the typical response is, “I guess you hate your mama then too”, but come on, people, that’s your MOM. That analogy isn’t 1:1. Does thinking someone is ugly means you hate them? I know several people that I don’t think are particularly attractive but I like them as people and all of the utmost respect for them. I PREFER women who are athletically-built. I guess that means I hate those women who aren’t, right? Not really. No one likes to be called “ugly”, but not everyone is going to think you look good. It doesn’t mean they hate you or hate themselves. Not everyone is like that. I believe doing drugs and being an alcoholic is showing more self-hate than thinking some people of your own race isn’t attractive, but I digress.

With all of that being said, let’s just keep those kind of comments to ourselves, people. All it does is just separates us further as a people and starts beefs that really shouldn’t exist. Perhaps when describing our preferences, even if skin color is important, you shouldn’t relay that to anyone. Let’s just say that some things are better left unsaid. We should be building each other up, not tearing each other down. Obviously, this bothers people so let’s not say things that we know are offensive to others.

 Finally, In regards to Ms. Destiny encouraging black women to boycott Lil Wayne’s music over what he said to her…

Ummmm…you are SEVERAL years late on that boycott, ma’am.

Not like Lil Wayne will ever be confused with a rapper like Common, who actually has several uplifting songs about black women. This guy hasn’t been the most positive person regarding females, well, unless you like being called b*@#hes, h#@s, and only be good for performing certain sexual acts, etc. The boycott should have been on and poppin’ for at least the last 10 years.

It’s just interesting that she ignored all of that but got riled up when he let his skin color preference be known.